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I spent years of my life wanting to take r:ev:enge on my father because of the fact that he abandoned me when I needed him the most. When life gave me the chance to do it, I thought twice.<\/p>\n
One day, I opened the door and saw someone I didn\u2019t expect. It was my dad. I hadn\u2019t seen him for ages. In fact, I didn\u2019t want to.<\/p>\n
\u201cHi, son. I\u2019m sorry to come like this. I tried to call you, but you didn\u2019t answer your phone,\u201d he told me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYeah, what do you want?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI was wondering if maybe I could stay with you\u2026 I don\u2019t have a place right now, so\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou can stay. But you have to pay rent.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBut I don\u2019t have any money at all\u2026 and you\u2019re the only person who can help me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t care,\u201d I said, feeling my heart tighten. \u201cYou can live on the street. I wish God had t:a:ken you instead of mom!\u201d
\nMy wife Julie was just behind me. I slammed the door. She was pissed with what just happened but she had no idea what I went through with my dad. She pushed me to tell her.<\/p>\n
It all started as I turned 18. My mom had passed away 2 years before that, therefore I think my dad was still adapting to taking both roles. He prepared a surprise birthday party. After we celebrated, he asked me what I was planning to do with my living situation.<\/p>\n
He told me I was an adult and I needed to pay some kind of rent if I wanted to stay with him in the house. I was so angry.<\/p>\n
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\nHe said that was normal and I had to grow up. I told him I\u2019d rather live in a dorm in college than pay him rent, then he said he couldn\u2019t afford college and I had to pay for it myself. I should either get a job or a loan.<\/p>\n
\u201cI felt betrayed, Julie. I didn\u2019t expect that. That\u2019s why I left,\u201d I told my wife.<\/p>\n
Julie said my father reached out to her some days earlier and that she gave him our address. But she didn\u2019t tell me anything either\u2026<\/p>\n
And she suggested I should forgive my father.<\/p>\n
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\nBut I wasn\u2019t ready. He threw me out like some kind of stray dog. \u201cNo, Julie, I work 24\/7 to at least, eat normally. And he? He just abandoned me! No forgiveness!\u201d I told her.<\/p>\n
\u201cCome on, honey, he\u2019s your father!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSo what? You don\u2019t know! You don\u2019t understand\u2026 Only my mom truly loved me. And she would have never allowed him to kick me out of my own house and\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
Julie interrupted me, \u201cNick, do you know your father\u2019s side of the story? I mean you lost your mom but he lost his wife\u2026 Have you thought about how this affected him as well?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou know what? THAT\u2019S ENOUGH!\u201d I shouted, \u201cI don\u2019t want to hear it!! I\u2019m done\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
I knew Julie was trying to help me. But I made a decision to get some fresh air and went for a walk.<\/p>\n
I passed by some benches, and I spotted a man sleeping on one but I thought it was a hobo. When I looked a second time, I knew it was my dad!<\/p>\n
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\n\u201cDad, wake up! Are you OK?\u201d<\/p>\n
He woke up immediately, \u201cNick, is that you?!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes, dad, I\u2019m really sorry! I just\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI just wanted you to do good in life and\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShh, easy dad, that\u2019s okay, that\u2019s okay.\u201d<\/p>\n
He burst into tears. \u201cI thought if you had to pay rent then maybe\u2026 maybe you would move on. I wanted to help you, son. You were just sitting on the couch. You weren\u2019t doing anything.\u201d He continued, \u201cI wanted to motivate you to get a job and live your life.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know I couldn\u2019t pay for your college because I invested the money into my business and\u2026 I was gonna give the business to you. But I lost everything, Nick.\u201d<\/p>\n
I finally understood what Julie meant. Everything my dad did was with good intentions. So I couldn\u2019t leave him like that. I was the only person he had left.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, dad,\u201d I replied. \u201cIf it wasn\u2019t for you, I would have stayed on the couch and achieved nothing. You pushed me for good and I needed to get out of my comfort zone.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes, that\u2019s what I wanted, Nick.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know, dad. But I didn\u2019t see it that way. I thought you betrayed me. But because you did what you did, now I have a great job and a beloved family. And that\u2019s all thanks to you!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know I did a lot of things\u2026 I know I hurt you, son. Can you forgive me?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, it\u2019s you who should forgive me, dad!\u201d Suddenly, I felt something shifting inside of me. I had been practicing meditation a lot and one of them was about forgiveness. I could never truly forgive my father before, but that day, I did it. Finally.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019ve held this anger for so many years\u2026 And I\u2019ve tried different things to get rid of it. But now I understand\u2026 I was wrong.\u201d I stood up and took him by the hand. \u201cLet\u2019s go home, dad. We have a lot to talk about\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThank you, son. I love you! I\u2019ve always loved you!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019ll be a grandfather!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWait, what? Is Julie pregnant?!\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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