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My ex-husband Dan and I were married for eight years.
\nHowever, it turned out that I was the only one in the marriage who believed in \u201cours.\u201d<\/p>\n
The night I learned Dan\u2019s c.h.e.a.t.i.n.g is etched in my memory.<\/p>\n
Our daughter Emma had a fever, and I was looking in Dan\u2019s drawer for the children\u2019s medicine that he normally kept there. Instead, I discovered his phone.<\/p>\n
I wasn\u2019t trying to snoop, but a notification flashing across the screen caught my eye: a heart emoji followed by \u2018I love you!\u2019<\/p>\n
I couldn\u2019t stop myself from opening it, and my heart broke when I discovered dozens of intimate text messages between my husband and a lady named \u201cJessica.\u201d<\/p>\n
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\nHe didn\u2019t even have the courtesy to show shame. \u201cIt just happened,\u2019 he said with a shrug as if we were discussing the weather. \u201cThese things happen in marriages. It was just some harmless fun with my secretary, Jessica. It won\u2019t happen again, honey. Never! I\u2019m sorry. Trust me.\u201d<\/p>\n
I told myself that it was an error and a slip of judgment. I believed we could repair it. I convinced myself that forgiveness was the strongest thing I could do. What about the second time? Oh, the second time shattered any illusions I had left.<\/p>\n
That was the moment something inside of me shattered. \u201cNo! I want you to pack your bags.\u201d<\/p>\n
I filed for di:vor:ce before Dan could make another weak excuse.
\nHowever, the house was not up for grabs. It was mine, handed down from my grandma long before Dan entered the picture.<\/p>\n
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\nDan insisted on splitting everything else 50\/50, exactly as we had throughout our marriage. He expected fairness to the cent on everything, including groceries, trips, and furniture.<\/p>\n
We were debating custody arrangements when Dan glanced at our lawyer and said calmly, \u201cShe can have full custody. I don\u2019t want the responsibility of raising the kids.\u201d<\/p>\n
After the paperwork was signed, Dan requested a week to collect his belongings and go. He said he needed time to \u201csort everything out.\u201d<\/p>\n
When the week ended, I returned home with the kids, eager to begin our new chapter. But what I walked into was a nightmare.<\/p>\n
The lovely floral wallpaper was GONE.<\/p>\n
And there he was, Dan, pulling off another strip of wallpaper like a man possessed.<\/p>\n
He turned around, unaffected. \u201cI bought this wallpaper. It\u2019s mine.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMom?\u201d Jack\u2019s voice quivered. \u201cWhy is Dad doing that to our walls?\u201d<\/p>\n
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\nI couldn\u2019t think of anything to say that wouldn\u2019t make things worse. I gave Dan a glance that was piercing enough to weaken him.<\/p>\n
So I took a long breath and replied, \u201cFine. Do what you want.\u201d Then I escorted the kids back to the car and left.<\/p>\n
When I returned later that evening, things were far worse than I had anticipated.
\nThe kitchen was devoid of utensils, toasters, and even a coffee machine. He had also removed all of the toilet paper from the restrooms, as well as almost everything he had purchased with his OWN MONEY.<\/p>\n
A month later, I joined a book club. At first, it was simply a way to get out of the home and feel like myself again. However, the women there immediately became my support system.<\/p>\n
One night, after a few glasses of wine, I told the wallpaper story. I recounted every ludicrous detail, from the bare walls to the missing toilet paper.<\/p>\n
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\n\u201cGirl,\u201d Cassie said, wiping tears from her eyes, \u201cyou dodged a bullet.\u201d<\/p>\n
Little did I know, that karma was only getting started.<\/p>\n
Six months have gone by. Life has settled into a new routine. The kids were doing well, and I had put the craziness of the divorce behind me. Dan had barely crossed my mind till the day he contacted me unexpectedly.<\/p>\n
\u201cHey,\u201d he said, his tone smug. \u201cI thought you should know \u2014 I\u2019m getting married next month.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cCongratulations.\u201d<\/p>\n
But a few weeks later, while walking downtown on a rare solo outing, I spotted Dan across the street.
\nHe was holding hands with a woman.<\/p>\n
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\nAs they approached, my stomach dropped. The woman was CASSIE, one of my book club friends.<\/p>\n
\u201cOh my gosh, hey!\u201d she said, tugging Dan toward me. \u201cThis is such a small world! I have so much to tell you! I\u2019m engaged! This is my fianc\u00e9, his name is\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
I forced a tight smile. \u201cYeah, DAN! I know.\u201d<\/p>\n
Cassie\u2019s eyes flickered between us, confused and suspicious. \u201cWhat do you mean, \u2018go way back\u2019? How do you know each other? Dan, do you\u2026 know her?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cOh, yeah! Not that important. He\u2019s just my ex-husband,\u201d I said bluntly, cutting him off.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat story you told at the book club\u2026 the one about the wallpaper? About that freaking guy? Is that\u2026 him?\u201d<\/p>\n
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\nCassie turned to face Dan before I could speak. \u201cYou\u2019re a walking red flag. I can\u2019t believe I almost married you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I just smiled faintly and walked away. This DAMAGE was more than enough!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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